Red
Light, Green Light
By
Laura Rose
I liken
essence of the Law of Attraction to hitting green lights. Everyone has the ability to attract green
lights where ever they go.
“But how can that
be? Wouldn’t’ that mean that we would
crash into each other most of the time?”
Everyone has
the ability to attract green lights where ever they go. “But wouldn’t that mean
that (if all the lights were green) we would crash into each other most of the
time?”
Well, not
everyone is going to the same places.
Therefore, not everyone is reaching the same traffic lights at the same
time. Allowing the Law of Attraction to
flow, is much like going with the flow of traffic. If we trust the flow of traffic to get us to
our desired destination safely, securely and calmly, by the time we get to a traffic
signal, it will be green.
That’s
ridiculous, you think? Well – this is
only a metaphor. But as metaphors goes,
it’s a pretty good one. Law of
attraction is attraction base. If our
attention is on things that pass us by, things that cut us off, things that
slow us down etc – we will continue to attract things that pass us by, things
that cut us off, things that slow us down, etc.
If we direct
our attention on things flowing in our direction, in harmony with us, for our
well-being and benefit, we will continue to attract things to our benefit.
Let’s explore
the traffic and green lights metaphor a little more.
If we are
upset that someone is passing us or cutting of us or is getting in our way, our
frustrated thought is on that inconsiderate driver. To feel better about that,
we may increase our speed to catch up or maneuver around them. Now we have just exhibited that same
inconsiderate attribute that we just rebuked in others. More people have now witnessed our
inconsiderate behavior, which entices them to exhibit similar behavior. Now you are surrounded by inconsiderate
drivers (you included). You have attracted
the very thing you were frustrated by.
The Law of
Attraction is 100% attraction based. You
attract what you focus on.
If you see a
“stale” green light and feel that you won’t make in time, the universe grants
your wish.[1]
If you see a “red
light” and fear that it won’t turn green by the time you arrive, the universe
grants your wish.[2]
If you speed
and maneuver around people because you think you’re going to be “late” or “miss
the green light cycle”, the universe complies with additional obstacles to
match your “being late” request.[3]
If you are
frustrated about a long or stuck light at a specific corner, the universe
complies with not only that specific corner, but additional ones as well.
If you change
your focus to what you really want, both traffic and traffic lights will
accommodate your wishes.
Some Road
Games to try:
1) Pre-pave
your trip
This
is a modification of the Segment Intending exercise in Ask and It Is Given[4].
Send out the below vibrations before traveling:
When
I travel from point-to-point, I flow effortlessly and continuously. The traffic is in harmony with my overall
intentions for safety and efficiency.
Traveling is easy and fun as I pass under all the green lights. The traffic around me keeps me on-target and
safe. When I rarely hit a red light, I know it’s because it’s aligning me with
my larger goal for safety. When I rarely need to take a detour, I know there’s
something on this different path that I need to experience. As I move about from place to place, I see
myself arriving healthy, safely refreshed and on time. And I am prepared and
excitedly anticipating whatever it is that I am about to do there.
Side Note: Since I started the above game, I rarely
catch a red light and always feel energetic and happy when I arrive at my
destination.
2) Realize
you can never lose the race.
When
I notice someone maneuvering and speeding to get ahead of traffic, I think “No
matter how fast or dangerous he drives, I’ll still get to my destination before
he does. I always win.”
This
is just a mind-game, because he’s not going to the same place that I am
going. Therefore, I will always get
there before him. I always win.[5]
Side Note: Because of the above game, I giggle when
someone passes me.
3) Take
advantage of the pauses
The
Universe is your playground and you are the center of it. Therefore, pretend
that everything occurs for your benefit.
So -- if you do get caught at a long light, take that as a sign that you need to pause, breathe or
mediate. Use that time to quiet your
mind and mediate. You’ll be surprised
how many inspirational thoughts and creative ideas will appear. Don’t worry about watching for the light to
change. The people behind you will let you know when to go.
Side Note: The idea for this article came to me at a
rarely-caught long-light.
4) Use
this time to align with source
If
you find yourself stuck in slow-moving traffic, chances are that you are currently
thinking something that your inner being doesn’t. Use this opportunity to take stock on what
you are thinking about right now. Are
your thoughts upstream or downstream?
What were you thinking right before the “slow-down”? Sometimes noticing that you are “stuck in
traffic”, is the upstream thought.[6]
Take
this time to let go of the oars.
Rush-hour traffic is a great time get back in alignment. List some positive aspects of rush-hour
traffic or take advantage of some other games.
Some beneficial thoughts could be:
·
I
love the oxymoron “rush-hour traffic”.
Everyone is rushing to get somewhere, and no one is moving. “Rush-hour traffic” is a great term.
·
It’s
highly unlikely that I’ll get into a major fender-bender going at this
speed. This is a very safe place to be.
·
That’s
a very nice looking car ahead. It has
some great rims on the tires.
·
That
guy is having a lively conversation on his phone. I wonder what that is all about.
·
This
is a great time to wind down a little.
It’s so hectic at the office, and then there’s a lot of activity with
the kids when I get home. It’s nice to
have this time alone with my thoughts…to wind down….to transition from
everything going on at work to relaxing at home.
·
I
am sure looking forward to that nice, relaxing shower when I get home. Or better yet, I’ll invite my family for a
swim (bike ride, walk, etc) before dinner at the neighborhood pool. That would be fun. We’ll pick up a pizza on the way back. We won’t have to worry about dinner
tonight. The kids would like that. It will be like a vacation. Let me call them right now.
·
I
want to remember to ask my son about his big test today. That subject has been challenging for him and
he has been working really hard.
Everybody has at least one or two subjects we don’t connect with. I remember having trouble with algebra and
how much an encouraging word meant to me at that age. I want to remember to let him know how proud
of him I am – no matter what.
·
Next
week is my friend’s birthday. I’ll take
this next exit and go to that bookstore.
The bookstore is nicely air-conditioned and has lots of interesting,
distracting things. I’ll certainly find
something for my friend in there. By the
time I’ve done that errand, the traffic will have disappeared completely.
·
Tomorrow
I’ll pack my work-out clothes and stop at the gym on the way home. I’ll spend just 30-45 minutes there and the
traffic will be gone. I’ll be home approximately at the same time and I will
have felt good because I worked out.
5) Convert
travel time into play time
Play
your favorite songs or talk radio station.
Listen to that audio book that you can’t find the time to read. Slip in an Abraham Hicks Monthly CD. Compose/hum/sing a song during traffic. Plan out a surprise, special evening with a
friend or mate. Detail and visualize
your next vacation excursion. Think of
lists of people you want to thank with e-cards or such. Visualize the fun things you will be doing at
your final destination.
6) Imagine
all the lights turning green for you
Visualize
hitting all the green lights and see how many you actually hit in a row. Excitedly anticipate your next trip to see if
you can improve upon your last green streak.
Play the “wouldn’t it be nice” game with more than just the green
lights.
Are
we not just talking about traffic and traffic lights? This metaphor can be extended to your career,
family, friends, spiritual community, etc.
We can feel stuck or trapped in anything and anywhere. We see that
person getting that promotion that we should have received (maneuvering and
passing us on the highway). We may feel
stuck in a love-less marriage (sitting at a stuck red-light). We may feel in a rut and wanting more from
life (slow moving traffic).
The
suggestion is to take advantage of these signs, whether it’s the traffic, the
aggravating friend or maybe a dead-end job.
Use these signs to change your thoughts.
With a change of thought, everything can be turned to our
advantage.
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Laura has
been in the software and testing industry for over 20 years. She’s worked with such companies as IBM,
Eriksson, Staples, Fidelity Investments and Sogeti in various client advocacy
and project management roles. The techniques
she uses in her business coaching and client advocacy work saved these
companies both time and money, which resulted in on-time, quality product
delivery with higher client satisfaction. Laura now
uses her client focus, project, quality and people management skills in her
personal life coaching career. As a
personal life coach, she helps people integrate their goals and dreams into
their everyday lives. Laura uses creative
and practical tools to help her clients realize what really matters to them. They then follow-through with project and
time management techniques to create the reality they really want. Laura authors many articles and
workshops on time management and strategic scheduling. She is also the founder of the electronic
magazine the Rose Garden: the Art of
Becoming. Laura offers one-on-one career
and life coaching, small group coaching, seminars and workshops. You
can learn more about her at www.RoseCoaching.info
and contact her at LauraRose@RoseCoaching.info . |
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[1] Many people have good things flowing to them, only to constantly worry
“when will this end?” “when will the shoe drop”? “This winning streak cannot last”. Focusing your energy and attention on “this
good stuff will end soon” attracts an ending to the “good stuff”. This is like saying a stale green light will
change before I get there.
[2] Many people see “bad things happening to good people”, and worry that bad things will also happen to them. Your experiences are independent. Just because the light is red when you are a block away, doesn’t mean it will still be red when you are at the corner.
[3] When you are worried about being late, is typically when we misplace our keys, or get caught in a traffic jam, or get in the wrong line in the drive through, etc.
[4] Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks
[5] This is the same in life. Your life is totally independent of other people’s experiences. They are not you. They don’t know what you know, who you are or the power you hold. It doesn’t’ matter what they are doing, thinking or saying. You create your own experiences, your own reality, and your own joyous destiny.
[6] I say “could be an upstream thought”, because it all depends where you were before that thought. For instance, if you were stuck in a ditch or were previously run off the road – then being stuck in traffic is a better feeling place. If you were depressed, scared, feeling powerless before, then feeling annoyed is a better feeling thought.